Current:Home > StocksDavid and Victoria Beckham and how to (maybe) tell if your partner is in love with you -Mastery Money Tools
David and Victoria Beckham and how to (maybe) tell if your partner is in love with you
View
Date:2025-04-14 17:54:54
If you watched the "Beckham" docuseries on Netflix, you may have caught a swoon-worthy moment at the end: soccer superstar David and Posh Spice Victoria Beckham dancing adorably around each other to "Islands in the Stream." It's a blink-and-you-might-have-missed-it scene that fans are convinced it's a masterful marker of "true love."
"They look so much in love! We should all have that kind of love!!" one TikTok commenter wrote on a clip of them dancing. Another added: "Such an amazing and beautiful couple. I haven't seen the documentary. Now I must watch this. Love the way they still look so much in love."
Couples have in turn flocked to TikTok to "test" their partners to see if they can match the Beckhams' energy. Want proof? #beckhamchallenge has more than 8 million views on the platform.
But is a viral challenge really a solid way to tell if your partner's in love with you? It's not the only way to tell, but it could indicate your partner is game to support you, which is important in a long-term relationship.
"The Beckham Challenge is not so much about whether your partner is your true love, but really about sharing a joyful, low-stakes fun moment together," says Maryanne Fisher, a psychology professor at St. Mary's University in Canada. "It's a synchronized activity, making contact with one's partner, showing that there's an agreement. They see what you're up to and join in the fun, supporting you and engaging."
Is a 'true love' test real?
The videos showcase many couples escaping whatever else is going on in their lives to have a moment of frivolous fun, which we all need from time-to-time.
"People are smiling and having what appears to be a joyful timeout from whatever else they are doing, appreciating each other and showing a light-heartedness," Fisher says.
It's also "a really nice break from all the attempts to figure out if a partner is cheating, behaving poorly or other negativity that overshadows relationships." These types of videos often linger on the TikTok algorithm for those seeking advice on relationships.
But does a "true love" test actually exist? Not exactly. However, research supports behavior like this as a metric for success.
Laura Petiford, a licensed marriage and family therapist, points to research from Dr. John Gottman who predicted with 94% accuracy if couples were going to divorce. "His research shows that happy and stable couples have a ratio of five positive interactions for every negative interaction," she says. "Perhaps the Beckhams dancing is an indication of their prioritizing positive experiences with each other."
A simpler tell? Those who are not in sync, or are fighting: "There are a few other signs that a couple is headed for trouble," Petiford adds. "Gottman identifies these as 'The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.' These include criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. So it actually is easier to see who is struggling with love rather than proving who is in love."
'We were never against each other':Victoria Beckham on David's cheating rumors in Netflix doc
'Very revealing if we want to be silly'
Resorting to "test" partners, as fun as it might seem, is not always the best idea. But if you do go about it, don't consider it a "fail" if they don't join in on your impromptu dance session.
"It is, however, very revealing if we want to be silly or do something lighthearted and then feel concerned that our partner will judge us poorly – that might very well indicate a relationship that is unbalanced," Fisher says. "I say this having belted a version of ("Islands in the Stream") out at karaoke in Japan in May, incredibly off key, with my partner and then laughing for a long time after."
Knowing if you're loved is easier than you think. A loving partner is someone who admires, supports, cares and communicates with you, "whether that be verbally, or more hopefully, nonverbally via actions," Fisher adds. "They make an effort to spend time together, learn about one's interests and express their commitment."
And when in doubt, time to bend it like the Beckhams.
In case you missed:David Beckham's alleged mistress Rebecca Loos speaks out on Netflix doc, says rumors were 'true'
veryGood! (21158)
Related
- Whoopi Goldberg is delightfully vile as Miss Hannigan in ‘Annie’ stage return
- Gwyneth Paltrow says her husband is similar to late Bruce Paltrow: 'I finally chose my dad'
- Leighton Vander Esch out for season. Jerry Jones weighs in on linebacker's future.
- Young Kentucky team plays with poise but can't finish off upset of No. 1 Kansas
- Meet first time Grammy nominee Charley Crockett
- A man convicted in the 2006 killing of a Russian journalist wins a pardon after serving in Ukraine
- Bradley Cooper on Maestro
- Colorado mass shooting suspect, who unleashed bullets in supermarket, pleads not guilty
- The company planning a successor to Concorde makes its first supersonic test
- ASEAN defense chiefs call for the fighting in Gaza to cease, but they struggle to address Myanmar
Ranking
- The company planning a successor to Concorde makes its first supersonic test
- Matt LeBlanc posts touching tribute to Matthew Perry: 'Among the favorite times of my life'
- Repairs to arson damage on I-10 in Los Angeles will take weeks; Angelenos urged to 'work together' during commute disruption
- Save 58% On the Viral Too Faced Lip Plumper That Works in Seconds
- Apple iOS 18.2: What to know about top features, including Genmoji, AI updates
- Ohio interstate crash involving busload of high school students leaves 6 dead, 18 injured
- Watch One Tree Hill’s Sophia Bush and Hilarie Burton Recreate Iconic Show Moment
- Video shows Army veteran stopping suspect from jacking pregnant woman's car at a Florida Starbucks
Recommendation
New Zealand official reverses visa refusal for US conservative influencer Candace Owens
An ethnic resistance group in northern Myanmar says an entire army battalion surrendered to it
Global hacker investigated by federal agents in Puerto Rico pleads guilty in IPStorm case
Mali’s leader says military has seized control of a rebel stronghold in the country’s north
Krispy Kreme offers a free dozen Grinch green doughnuts: When to get the deal
Watch this rescue dog get sworn in as a member of a police department
5 years after bankruptcy, Toys R Us continues comeback with store inside Mall of America
Step Inside Travis Barker's Thanksgiving-Themed Birthday Party Hosted By Kourtney Kardashian